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21 Phrases Of Sympathy Alternatives For “Thoughts And Prayers Are With You.”

One of the most prevalent words used while extending condolences to those who have suffered a loss is, you’re in my thoughts and prayer’s (or some variation of that). It’s a beautiful sentiment, and it could be true. And it exhibits comprehension of their pain and empathy to the issue. But you might want to say something else, and something that has been used less frequently means more to you or them or communicates your sentiments more effectively. Over the years of working with clients, I’ve grown quite fond of using one type of condolence expression that may seem unexpected at first but may be precisely what someone needs in a very particular situation.

What you say or write to grieving can be very powerful and significant. The person receiving your words will appreciate you spending the time and effort to discover something more than ‘you’ll be in my thoughts and prayers and may find greater comfort in them as a result.

So, if you’re looking for a more meaningful way to express your condolences than ‘you’re in my thoughts and prayers,’ Here are 21 phrases that might have an instance where they make one feel better. It helps you express your emotions to friends, family, or colleagues grieving or even at a funeral. And, as a result, provide them with even more comfort when they need it the most.

What Should I Say Instead of, "You're in my thoughts and prayers, aren't you?"

  1. I am genuinely sorry for your loss. 
  2. I will be thinking of you and sending my love. 
  3. We will miss them more than words can express. 
  4. They touched our lives and the lives of so many others.
  5. Please know that I am always available to you. 
  6. You are not alone; we are here to help you with whatever you require.
  7. My grief could not be adequately expressed in words.
  8. There is nothing else I can say except that I am very sorry. 
  9. I love you; please accept my sympathies.
  10. Nothing I can say can make your anguish go away, but I will be eternally sad for your loss.

Finding the appropriate words for a friend who has lost someone important to them can be challenging. With these alternatives, you can say more than “you’re in my thoughts and prayers.”

  1. My heart hurts for you, and I will always be there for you. I am deeply sorry. 
  2. I can do nothing to make this better, but I will be at your side every step of the journey
  3. Be strong, my friend, and know that you have the love and support of many people around you. 
  4. Lean on us for comfort in your time of need. We will be present.

When Someone Bears the Loss Of Parents

The death of a parent is a devastating event. If you know someone who has lost a mother or father, use these alternate expressions for “you’re in my thoughts and prayers.”

  1. I hope that the love of family and friends brings you peace during these difficult times.
  2. May your joyful memories provide you with some solace.
  3. Please remember how much you are loved while you grieve.
  4. I will always make time for you if you need anything at this awful time. I wish there were more I could do to help relieve your suffering.

For the Death of a Spouse/Partner

These unusual sympathy messages and sayings will help console people who have lost a relationship.

  1. I adore you and will always be there for you. Keep your loved one’s memories close to your heart, and they will never truly leave you.
  2. When someone you care about becomes a memory, the memory itself becomes a treasure. 
  3. It is painful to lose a parent, and I am deeply sorry. It isn’t kind to lose someone so precious to us. May they be at peace.

Ways to Tell a Co-worker "You're in my Thoughts and Prayers" :

Co-workers and co-workers get close to us, so sending a note or gift to the bereaved is a heartfelt gesture. These messages will provide you with something to say other than “you’re in my thoughts and prayers.”

  • I wish you love and hope.
  • I’m sending my love, hope, and prayers to you and your family.
  • I want to express my condolences for your loss.
  • I hope you’re doing well after such a tragic loss.
  • May your precious memories live on in your heart forever.

"You are in my thoughts and prayers," she says. Alternatives for a Relative

Even if you didn’t know the person who died well, it’s still necessary to convey your sympathies. Whether you attend a funeral or talk to a suffering friend, these alternate messages will come in handy.

  • My heartfelt condolences on your loss.
  • My heartfelt condolences on your awful loss.
  • I hope you find peace and comfort to help you get through this difficult time.
  • We will never be able to regain what we once had. Everything we adore becomes a part of us.
  • Today and always, I wish you beautiful memories that warm your heart.


The phrase “you’re in my thoughts and prayers” may be overused, but it’s primarily because it’s a tender way of showing sympathy for someone’s loss. So, if you want to use it, try not to feel awful or embarrassed about it.